A prayer for our friend…
Give all of us gathered here the strength to remember that life is so very fragile.
We are all vulnerable.
And we will all in some point in our lives, fall.
We will all fall.
We must carry this in our hearts– that what we have is special–
that it can be taken from us, and when it is taken from us, we will be tested.
We will be tested to our very souls.
We will now all be tested.
It is these times, it is this pain– that allows us to look inside ourselves.
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I was telling a coworker about Jason today. Can’t believe it’s been 3 years. I hope everybody is finding their peace.
It’s been three years. Rest in peace, son.
I ‘met’ Jason aka Hideaki Tendo in Everquest on the Nameless server; in memorization I made a character in World of Warcraft named: Hideaki & Tendo, on my Tendo character I have several hunter pets named after bosses in Everquest, including the infamous Fippy Darkpaw… It was very unfortunate to find out of his passing, & I hope he’s found some peace.
Two years and some months later, I find that someone I loved dearly for a year of my life, passed away, not in an accident, but heartbroken and tragically.
I pray that his family and close friends are at peace, and that Jason himself has found some. I know the last time we spoke he wasn’t happy, that his marriage wasn’t going well hurt him. He said wanted a baby and that his wife said she never wanted kids. That he loved her, and just wanted to be happy in that.
I looked at our pictures together from our trip from California to Ohio and from the time we lived there, I couldn’t help but smile when I remembered, even though we hadn’t worked out I always wished him happiness. He always told me how much he loved his family as well and that going to college was a dream come true.
I am grateful that this posting was on the Linked Portion of FB, or I would have never known.
He’s been in my thoughts today for some reason. I met Jason when I was a guide on EQ, and later he help me get a job at Verant as a GM. We became friends almost instantly. There were times when we would just hang out and go fishing in the Mission Bay down in San Diego, at like 3am in the morning… There, we caught kelp bass, skates, and guitarfish. He didn’t eat any of them though, he just enjoyed catching them. But I ate them.
When there wasn’t any action, we’d just sit on the rocks and talked about life and other random things and on some days, watch the sun come up. I like how he was always very open about himself. We did other random things like make amateur action videos with light sabers… I’ve always wondered what he did with the clips we made. He had a talent for that kind of stuff.
When it was time to return back to Sacramento, he packed everything in a Uhual and asked for my help. Of course, I helped. I accompanied him during the move… was a nice 10hr drive… kinda a bonding moment. There I met his dad and mom, who made me felt very at home; both friendly and accommodating. Jason paid for my flight back to San Diego too. But before I left, he took me out to a couple places in Sacramento to meet his friends. I had a lot of fun.
Been trying to reach him again for a long time. I’ll miss the guy.
-Richard
Guide Meign / Nameless
GM Seign / — i dont remember where
At the same time as Kasmire, I first knew Jason as GM Hideaki. He was always a great fellow and I’m truly shocked and saddened to hear of his passing.
Jeramie Hicks
Guide Genetrix
The Nameless
It has been a year ago today (January 11th) since that tragic day. As our endless pain remains we take great pride and comfort from what this website continue to provide and accomplish, knowing that our son’s (Jason) legacy is very much remembered. We extend our sincere gratitude to his wonderful friends who have contributed in one way or another in keeping this site going, most especially–Ray Hilario. Peace to everyone.
Hello – I unfortunately just found this information from another website, I played on the nameless server in everquest & I remember seeing Hideaki Tendo aka Jason in game & thought he looked so neat in his armor & asked who he was, he said “I’m the GM”; since then he ran extremely wonderful in game quests for the nameless server until he was let go for ‘breaking some rules’ I guess… regardless, he was a great GM, I am very saddened to see these turn of events; & I’m sure he’ll be greatly missed
– Nameless Server
Jason, here we are eight months later and I just found out about this. I’m incredibly saddened by the news and at first I thought it was a joke.
You see, I’ve known Jason online since roughly 2000 when he worked for Varent Interactive (now Sony Online Entertainment) – he was a GM of a server and I was a guide. We got to know each other and kept in touch through the various gaming since then. Sadly it had been awhile since I spoke with Jason. I was actually on my own face book page and looking at my friends when I saw him. I clicked over to see what Jason was up to and came across a picture of his memorial (a small plaque with his name and life dates) — I honestly at first thought this was a gag until I started digging on google – it wasn’t hard to find, a simple search of his name and in came the flood of information.
I can’t even begin to imagine the pain and heart ache that his family and close friends must have felt and still feel today. I feel incredibly sad just knowing that I’ll never get to chat with him again – he had such a great imagination and a knack for story telling.
When something that’s completely unexpected like this happens, its tempting to think “I wish I had known, I wish I could have done something” but the truth is that’s part of what makes this so tragic is there’s really no way anyone could have known.
I’m so very sorry to hear this
-Justin Harward (Kasmire Tendo)
Happy Birthday Jason!!! I will be visiting you later on this afternoon…I love & miss you!
Your sister,
Cindy
Jason,
Not a day goes by that I don’t think of you. I’m sure you laughed at all of us on Friday as we tried so hard to meet up for the opening day of Star Trek and the stupid projector goes out! Sucks. That’s why we always would go to Roseville to watch movies and not Laguna Lol. Anyways, I want to apologize for not visiting you in a while..there is no excuse. Just know that I sincerely miss your voice and laughter.
Love always,
C
On behalf of our family, we would like to extend our gratitude to everyone from strangers to friends that came forth in our time of need. There were a lot of you out there that our son had touch in some ways or form. You have given us comfort of knowing how Jason projected the true meaning friendship. We are grateful that in his short but fuitful existence that (in his own words) “loyalty always wins at the end of the day”. Jason’s love for his wife Serena was endless that he even went as far as forgive and forget. Sometimes thou, there are certain things we just can not explain and when they occur–it is always the absence of “Good”. Their young lives were already written, now may they rest in peace. We will always remember who Jason was, our beloved son.
I was Jason’s roommate ten years ago, and I remained in contact with him since then. I’m still in shock that he’s gone and I’ll never see him online again on AIM or Xbox Live. I look at that offline name and can’t bring myself to remove it.
I wish I could have made it to the funeral, but am unable to due to my work schedule. I found out about what happened on Thursday and still am having trouble dealing with it.
I never in a million years saw this coming. Jason was always mild mannered and a calm person.
I’m an old friend of Deam’s, the shock and now pain of hearing what he went through hurts deeply… I feel anger, but at who? Perhaps myself, for falling out of touch since I went abroad.
Jay,
We met over 8 years ago, each sitting in our computer chairs, staring at a screen filled with colors, light, and the more than wanted comments from our annoying group mates. Something happened that night, one of us made a snide comment to the other about the moron warrior.. and it was all over for us; we were instantly friends.
Over the years, we’ve gone through alot with eachother and even though sometimes we may have yelled “in caps” at eachother through MSN, you would always say something like “Don’t be such a kupo!, kupo!” and i would burst out laughing.
I still have no frickin’ clue what that word means… but that was part of your charm. You were one of the few people in the world that i would drive out, in the middle of the night, to pick up at the seattle airport because there was miscommunication between you and the gal that was picking you up. You were there for me when my Dad died, and i thought i was there for you when you the problems started with Serena. We were all there for you Jason, we all wanted the best for you and to help you in your times of turmoil. You would reach out, but then withdrawl so quickly..
None of us saw this coming.. and my friend, it truly Saddens me that you will never text me again with the adventures of Azumi, or tell me i am stinky barbarian wench. You were a rare soul who wasn’t afraid to speak his mind, and i always appreciated that of you. I am sorry Serena hurt you so badly, i am sorry that you felt that this was the only way to stop the pain. I’m sorry that you are gone. And yes, I am angry with you.. many, MANY of us reached out to you and…
To the Montes family, i am incredibly sorry for your loss. He was a brilliant man with a rare witt that impacted so many lives. He made me a better artist, thank you for making him the wonderful person he was.
For those of you able to attend my brother’s funeral, the details are below:
This Saturday, January 24, 2009 at 11am-
(mass)
St.
Charles Borromeo
7584 Center Parkway
Sacramento, Ca 95824
Reception will follow from 12:30p – 3pm at:
First Baptist Church
8939 E. Stockton Blvd.
Elk Grove, Ca 95624
Again, my family and I would like to thank all of you for your kind words, love & support during this tragic time. We look forward to seeing many of you there.
Cyn
P.S. We (his friends) will be taking contributions on behalf of Jason and his family to help cover costs incurred by this tragedy.
His family DID NOT ask us to do this BUT we know how important Jason was and this is the LEAST we can do!
Thanks -
Shallan
I will forever miss you J. Its not often in life you get the opportunity to call someone a true friend, but that is what you are to me. Even though we were so far apart, we were so close. Everyday I will miss logging into messenger and seeing “OBERTO” or “HOOTERS”.
You will forever live on…every time I read Green Lantern, every time I eat tonkatsu or think of the motherload at claim jumpers…I will remember your face, your jokes and your friendship. I will miss you dearly.
Ben (Malikuta)
I worked with Jason and he was always the person i looked forward to seeing when i’m in a cubicle with three desk. He’s laid back and funny. It was a pleasure working him. Alike many others, no one saw this coming for Jason. He was a good guy. Life is not easy..for any of us. And i truly believe he’d go to heaven irregardless of his actions. Life messes up with you in different ways. And i’m happy to hear that he even submitted himself to therapy before all of this. This proves he realizes something and tried his very best to fix it.
I’m not sure about the full details of the situation..but at least he loved. And many love him back. Again, sincerely, this man was a good guy..who just fell in love.
RIP Jason. One day, we’ll all be together again in heaven.
Please join us in remembering Jason’s life.
The memorial mass will be held this Saturday, January 24th, 11 am at:
St. Charles Borromeo
7584 Center Parkway
Sacramento, Ca 95824
Reception will follow from 12:30p – 3pm at:
First Baptist Church
8939 E. Stockton Blvd.
Elk Grove, Ca 95624
Jason –
You were one of the most opinionated – you always had a viewpoint on something and were not shy to share it with anyone, stubborn – you never wanted to ever admit that you were wrong, smartest – you contained this bank of knowledge that always impressed me, and talented – your artistic ability speaks for itself – individual that I have ever known.
Although we endured a lot of ups and downs together – we managed to remain friends. I will always remember the late nights at Lyon’s playing Magic – the drive through El Dorado hills seeing the stars and watching out for aliens – the Wednesday trips to Lee’s Comics and Taxi’s – the time you erased my Final Fantasy 3 game – your constant need to be the collector of all the latest and greatest – and so much more. The memories go on and on and for that – I am forever grateful.
I’ll miss our late night chats on AIM – the latest movie recommendations – the next best must read comics…most of all – I’ll miss you.
I care for you lots – I always have and I hope that you are at peace – wherever you are.
My condolences to the family. My thoughts and prayers to you all.
For those of you interested in attending Jason’s funeral/memorial reception, please see details below:
This Saturday January 24th, 2009 at 11:00am-
St. Charles Borromeo (Mass)
7584 Center Parkway
Sacramento, Ca 95823
Reception will follow from 12:30p – 3pm at:
First Baptist Church
8939 E. Stockton Blvd.
Elk Grove, Ca 95624
Any further questions, feel free to e-mail me at:
ms_cynthiamontes@hotmail.com
I’,m SHOCKED!!!!! Jason and I were in high school together and he snuck me out of the house a few time, and and got me to like a few U2 songs (cause he played it over and over in his car). We kept in touch over the years as I traveled the world (I’m in the Army), and we just talked a few weeks ago about how we missed each other at the 10 year reunion. I told him I would see him at the next one may it be 15…20…25. My heart goes out to the families.
Jason… I am devastated to hear of your passing. I took our friendship for granted but I know you know you were one of my oldest dearest most loyal of friends. I have a lump in my throat and my eyes are threatening to spill over as I think of all our years since high school filled with numerous entertaining (and “need a good friend’s shoulder to cry on), memories.
I will always remember you as a good friend.
My name is Antoinette, and I am the daughter to Precy “Baby”, sister to Angel. I’m really sad that I didn’t get to know or grow up with Jason. He sounds like he was a blast to hang out with! Keep that memory of him alive…
Uncle, Auntie, and Cynthia, though you may have lost a son/brother, just know that you have gained more through family. We really would like to see you more often. I truly hope that despite this meeting (we will attend the services), we can make this happen.
Rest in peace Jason Montes.
Sad news indeed… Jason… You will be missed…
We exchanged many funny videos, but I just wanna post one:
… your laughter and good cheer will be missed. Prayers families and friends.
Jason, Jason, Jason. Why’d you have to leave me so soon?
I had the pleasure to know Jason for just about 7-8 months. We worked together at the board, but we were not just co-workers. We had a very strong friendship that nothing that I say in this comment can explain.
It hurts to know that you had to endure so much pain within the past couple months and nothing I would say can change the way things happened. I hope you know how much I tried to say the right things, and to help you move forward. But even now, it leaves me speechless. I’m so numb from the shock of losing you. I wish I could have said goodbye, to let you know how much I cared.
It’s hard to get used to not seeing you everyday–Hard to even get myself to work. I’m going to miss sneaking off & going to Lee’s for breakfast. (Chicken strips and rice will remind me of you forever). I’m going to miss walking into the conference room while your sleeping & storming out mad because you got to it first. I’m going to miss our random cubicle “drop-in’s” just to say hi, or to see what your doing because I was bored. From your random ways of putting “hamster” in your sentences- To the time you threw a stack of envelopes at me at the phone desk. Things will never be the same without you.
To his family, My deepest condolences. I can not imagine the pain you must feel. Jason was a great person, and spoke nothing but good things about you.
Jason, the image I have of you will never change. From what I hear or read- I will remember you the way you were. Your love for comic books, movies (Dark Night), your dogs, Claim Jumpers, Tonkatsu, and your love for growing things. Btw, you never gave me those mushrooms you grew!
Rest in peace Jason. You will be missed.
With love,
Jessica
i’m a long time friend of the family, very close to Jason’s sister Cindy, since we were 12yrs old. Everytime I’ve visited Cindy and Jason was there, we’d chop it up! My last memory of Jason is trying to keep the dogs from climbing all over me when entering their home and yelling “cindy, mara’s here” lol! he was just a cool guy. finding out about the tradegy of his death is just numbing and shocking to my family and i. i’m still at a lost for words, but want the family to know were here for them always. R.I.P. Jason Montes. Love always, Mara Diaz
The news made me numb and shocked when I heard about it. Jason and I really didn’t click until after graduating from HS. But i like to think that we became really good and close friends. I saw him as an extended family.
I will always remember Jason as a no non-sense, straight forward guy with a big heart and a great sense of humor. Even though we’ve lost touch, I have always wondered how he’s been and how he’s doing. I wish i could’ve been there for him during the trying times of his life.
I will never forget all the good times. But most of all, I’ll never forget you, Jason. Thank you for all the years of very good friendship. Rest In Peace my good friend.
I too am a distant cousin of Jason’s(my mom Precy “Baby” and his dad are half siblings) and unfortunately did not get a chance to grow up with him, but from what I have read, it’s a loss to me as well. I am extremely saddend by the loss of my cousin, I wish that I had gotten to know him, my prayers are with his family.
I can’t believe it. I am in shock. Jason was a dear friend of mine. Jason and I were at one point best-of-friends after high school and in college. I would have never thought that something like this would ever happen. I just wish I had the opportunity to help him, as he helped me get over a past relationship of my own.
We may have not kept in touch recently, but I will always remember U2 in the blue van, playing Sega at his parents’ house all summer, wasting our lives playing Everquest, taking trips to SF, etc. Rest in peace bro. I’ll never forget you.
First & foremost thank you all for leaving such heartfelt comments for my brother, Jason. Our family is devastated by all of this and still coming to terms with our loss. I haven’t fully accepted that I will not see him walk through my parent’s house with his button up shirt and oversized sunglasses with a dvd in hand asking if I want to watch it with him. He always had the latest movies and video games. Although my brother and I were opposites and had our disagreements here and there we still loved each other very much. I miss him already and it feels as though he is still here with us..just at home in Concord. My brother was never a violent person; I believe the factors of his crumbling marriage was just too much for him to accept. If I had known that he was hurting this bad, i would have done what I could to bring him back home to Sac to get him out of such an environment. In my heart I believe this could have been prevented had my family known about his suicide attempts. His “wife” Serena was leaving him for a guy at work and more recently admitted to a 2nd affair before their 1 year Anniversary and this must have been Jason’s breaking point. It gives me comfort to know that he is no longer in pain and will never have to feel this way again. This site will be updated with Funeral arrangements and you all are welcome to attend. My parents and I have found a lot of peace with frequent visits of his friends.
Cynthia Montes (Jason’s Sister)
As Jason’s brother in law this has been a very hard time for myself and the family. We thank you all for your kind words. I am heartbroken that I will not get to know him on the level some of you have, but his memory and the positive things said about him will live with me forever. I will remember him as the tech savvy, sun glass adorned, sarcastic, friend, brother and son.
D, Landers-Howard
Jason Montes was my friend and co-worker. At 33, he died much too young. I only knew him the less than one year we both worked at the Board but we had strong personal, as well as work, relationship. I think the best thing that can be said about him is that he was an individual – unique in so many ways. From his appearance (sunglasses indoors? hair proudly mussed) to his younger generation “music” to hisartistic but meandering drawings of birds, dogs and people, to his odd taste for coke in the morning, to his opinionated views on religion and politics – he was who he was – unapologetically. He would relish arguing against proposition 8 with some of our more religious co-workers – we were in agreement on that, anyway. And, he was a computer whiz whose tutorial skills did not go to waste. I knew little about his other life at home. Little about his marriage, little about their problems, little about the circumstances of their final moments. Nonetheless, I prefer to remember him as he appeared at work; I know I will miss him terribly.
Stan Kern
this is terrible. I knew Jason since highschool. Very cool guy. I knew about the seperation of him and his wife, and just recently got back onto contact with Jason. This guy was a good dude, we were really opposite with the company we chose to keep, but Jason and I had many things in common that we joked about. Whether it be comics, video games, movies…we were always able to find similiar likes and dislikes. Damn, the world lost a good guy today. Rest in peace brother. Johnnie Brown
This is all so touching…My sister (Cheryl) and I have never met him, but he seems to be a fun filled, spirited person.
I will post the funeral info once it’s available to me.
Thank you all for your kind words!!
–Cat Montes
Many of us who used to work with him in Redwood City would also like to attend any services that are planned. He was a terrific character, personality, and friend to us all during his time here. Please keep us in the loop with any information.
I am still in shock over this. I never thought in a million years Jason would do something like that. I was worried about him when he left work early on Friday with the news he found out but thought he would be ok since he was going to Sacramento to visit for the weekend. Little did I know what was to occur…
I still expect to see Jason at work. I already miss talking and laughing with him and having lunch with our 2 other friends. We are so heartbroken over this. Work will never be the same without him there! :0(
If it is possible, could you let me know when his funeral will be? I’m not sure if we’ll be notified about it or not. I know many of our co-workers want to attend and pay our last respects to such a great and funny guy and to speak our heartfelt condolences to his family.
RIP my dear friend…May the pain you endured these last few months be gone from your spirit now. I hope you have found the happiness and peace you deserved in life. You will never be forgotten…
I really wish none of this happened. I am in disbelief that he’s gone. I remember all the fun times we had in high school. I also remember when we went to the San Diego Comic Book Convention back in 1992. Thanks for the memories… I will NEVER forget you.
I’m a distant cousin of Jason, my Dad and his Dad are step-brothers… Apparently I never met Jason, not even when we were kids. Regardless, Jason is family and hearing the news was a real shocker… Reading some of your posts tells me a lot about Jason; how great of a guy he was. I found his profile on Linked-in and Facebook, trying to get more info on a cousin in never knew… Please keep the Montes Family is your thoughts and prayers!
This is very sad moment for our family. Please send your love and prayers to his parents Agnel and Olivia Montes!
Remember him and not try to figure out what went wrong! We really don’t know what was going on in his mind, but now he is not suffering and is in peace with is Father up above!
Much Love,
Cousin Cat Montes
Yea this was some really tough news to swallow on Sunday. We hung out at my brother’s place Saturday night since the two graduated high school together and known each other for many years. He seemed pretty happy as we laughed and joked together and didn’t seem to be really down. He was pretty much our extended family and I looked at him as one of my older brothers. The news didn’t really sink in till Monday and broke down a little bit but after going to his parents house today it put a lot of feelings at ease. He will be missed and always have a place in heart and cherish every minute I’ve spent with him. With that said keep the site going and maybe in time I’ll contribute here and there since it’s been a long time since I wrote a review.
This is sad.
I’m completely shocked. I didn’t know he was that hurt. Rest in peace, J. This site will kick a$$ in your name.
For those of us who knew Jason this news is incredibly sad. There are no right or wrong parties, this is a tragedy for all involved, and that goes for family and friends.
How did this happen?
I’m not saying what Jason did was right, and I’m definitely not saying Serena deserved to be killed, but it’s too bad that he’s viewed as the monster in all of this. Within the past few months, Jason’s wife had been cheating on him. And in the separation process, he started seeing a therapist. He was prescribed some prozac (which I’m not exactly blaming the cause of murder for either), and within the first week, he had slit his wrists. When he told his therapist what happened, the therapist responded along the lines, “Oh yeah, prozac will do that to you to. And you also can’t have sex.” I saw Jason last Tuesday, and he had a very optimistic attitude in which he felt that he was going to be fine, and that he was ready to move on. But then I heard that days later, he would learn that his “wife” had had cheated on him before the current guy she was leaving him for. I don’t know, I just thought I’d tell you all that to kinda clear Jason’s name.
This is sad news. RIP Jason.